tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post4828746705707918550..comments2024-03-28T13:57:29.949-07:00Comments on Thoughts from a Bag Lady In Waiting: The Bag Lady and the tenantLinda Myershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-3422429546224002902011-12-09T23:46:40.106-08:002011-12-09T23:46:40.106-08:00I usually have to be prevented from murdering some...I usually have to be prevented from murdering someone in my living space after a certain amount of time. And you're right--being upfront, not my finest trait, is the key to working through it.Murr Brewsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03422638986410813520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-42476020634597437692011-12-09T08:42:54.709-08:002011-12-09T08:42:54.709-08:00Boundaries are essential for sanity, even among fa...Boundaries are essential for sanity, even among family members. It sounds like a very convenient arrangement for you both, livable if you can agree to ground rules.<br /><br />I have toyed with the idea of renting a room/rooms someday as a way to make ends meet after retiring. But the fact is, I'm a solitary soul. I love having family here, but I would hate every minute of living with a stranger in the house.MyMaracashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277857661670053625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-87047707745120422862011-12-07T09:49:38.003-08:002011-12-07T09:49:38.003-08:00Well, even if she had been your mother, these inco...Well, even if she had been your mother, these inconveniences would creep up and bother you.<br />It's hard to live with people, even for a week, without realizing that boundaries need to be set down so both sides feel better.<br />On the other side, she is a great sitter, yes?Rosaria Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-44724942876227033892011-12-06T16:01:48.701-08:002011-12-06T16:01:48.701-08:00One of the ways in which my mother got me to shut ...One of the ways in which my mother got me to shut up in the a.m. was to tell me that my dreams would come true if I told them before breakfast. Perhaps you could tell her that all of her nightmares, past and present will come true if she speaks to you in the a.m.? Or maybe if she speaks to you at all? ahahahahah<br /><br />You would probably make a stellar landlord for a person who didn't actually live in your house!Demandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13091293696750606102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-75085169045389410822011-12-06T11:18:48.361-08:002011-12-06T11:18:48.361-08:00Being an actual landlord is a far cry from letting...Being an actual landlord is a far cry from letting someone live right inside your own home. Its difficult to mix the way 2 people live, let alone 2 people who barely know each other! I think your house rules are fair & just for sure. Everyone does things differently but those who pay the mortgage get the final say :-)Jenn Flynn-Shonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441834864191292424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-53487414808794492942011-12-03T09:16:05.542-08:002011-12-03T09:16:05.542-08:00The night cooking is a little scary. My mom let a ...The night cooking is a little scary. My mom let a grandson live in her basement. One night he'd been out drinking and came home and put a pizza in the oven and forgot about it. Mom woke up with the smoke alarms going off and the house full of smoke.Ms Sparrowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03417670251423549014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-1440257028618675492011-12-03T06:55:38.661-08:002011-12-03T06:55:38.661-08:00I have owned 4 rental homes and even that drove me...I have owned 4 rental homes and even that drove me batty. They always needed or wanted something out of the ordinary. I couldn't stand having having someone actually in my space.<br /><br />Suggestion: don't open a B & B. It never ends 7 days a week.Bob Lowryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843991725692979189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-56635629185270967772011-12-02T21:51:41.626-08:002011-12-02T21:51:41.626-08:00I would have a fit if someone renting from me want...I would have a fit if someone renting from me wanted to chat in the morning. Right now I spend half the week in a B&B and share a full kitchen with a young male tenant. He leaves dishes in the sink and hasn't replaced the dishwashing soap, but I can live with that. I'd have a hard time, though, if he asked me to stay out of the kitchen after 9pm because I'm a night owl. We've all got our trigger points, and I applaud you for identifying yours and dealing with them in an appropriate way.1NurseRatchedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10441385620203966120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-49293806227446899672011-12-02T20:11:02.366-08:002011-12-02T20:11:02.366-08:00Oh, I chuckled on rule #4. "Don't chat wi...Oh, I chuckled on rule #4. "Don't chat with me . . . in the morning". I'm a morning person, in the sense that I love to be up early in the morning, but not to talk to people! I don't want to chat with anyone, not my husband, or my girls (when they're home) or the dog! Just let me be!<br /><br />I was a landlord for about three months once, same sort of situation, and the woman was renting my basement. Oh my gosh, it drove me crazy! And, I liked her!<br /><br />I hope you are able to get through the next few weeks with some semblance of peace! I'll be thinking of you!Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15923693784234135636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-43822103726640381212011-12-02T17:53:44.487-08:002011-12-02T17:53:44.487-08:00I would be a terrible landlord, and I would handle...I would be a terrible landlord, and I would handle the situation exactly like you are. I would be generous and nebulous about the arrangement until something came up. Then, I too would be resentful and not want to confront. <br /><br />Bottom line: I like my space. I would not do well with sharing my kitchen or even my basement. I admire you for even attempting this arrangement.Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-61529656900263734232011-12-02T17:33:50.184-08:002011-12-02T17:33:50.184-08:00I see absolutely no problem with saying nicely &qu...I see absolutely no problem with saying nicely "susie, I am simply not a morning person. While youre welcome to come upstairs in the morning, I would appreciate if you didnt talk to me or carry on a conversation-its noting person, I just need my morning time" House rules are always good.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15195838412173806659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-24202400889367368892011-12-02T16:12:54.414-08:002011-12-02T16:12:54.414-08:00I enjoy company, but prefer living alone.They say ...I enjoy company, but prefer living alone.They say you can be good friends but not always roomates.Out on the prairiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09548162534362532705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-10482927460362859062011-12-02T10:27:03.811-08:002011-12-02T10:27:03.811-08:00They sound like reasonable rules to me. I would h...They sound like reasonable rules to me. I would have a hard time having a tenant...it's hard enough having a spouse!<br /><br />I am not an early riser and I've been known to whip up a snack in the middle of the night. I should probably live by myself.<br /><br />I used to avoid confrontation, but then I became a high school administrator and learned to enjoy the experience of managing conflict. Good luck!#1Nanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04214011945298439939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-19407794750115886402011-12-02T08:46:27.429-08:002011-12-02T08:46:27.429-08:00Sharing space is a hard thing, especially after be...Sharing space is a hard thing, especially after being comfortable in your own ways for a time. The cat took time to adjust and get you trained to her demands. Cut yourself some slack for the three weeks and take a good lesson into the future.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-58294920233146606602011-12-02T08:30:00.430-08:002011-12-02T08:30:00.430-08:00You never know how you'll react until you get ...You never know how you'll react until you get put into a specific situation.Gianettahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08560583308799336857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-71572308939825151582011-12-02T07:06:41.409-08:002011-12-02T07:06:41.409-08:00Does she read your blog? Some how I get the impres...Does she read your blog? Some how I get the impression this situation will not occur again in the future. <br />Your rules seem common sense to me. Good luck.Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-40624734873269516632011-12-02T01:06:16.627-08:002011-12-02T01:06:16.627-08:00I would find it very hard to have someone else liv...I would find it very hard to have someone else living with us after all these years without the kids. Stick to your guns about your very reasonable house rules and be grateful it's only for 3 weeks.Perpetuahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01214396019726161983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-43650146875083624552011-12-01T21:57:03.636-08:002011-12-01T21:57:03.636-08:00You might be surprised. Perhaps a hardening to wha...You might be surprised. Perhaps a hardening to what your rules are for the next time this situation comes up. Now you know.Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-54362772895696362592011-12-01T18:41:38.278-08:002011-12-01T18:41:38.278-08:00Starting cooking projects at 11:00pm? This is weir...Starting cooking projects at 11:00pm? This is weird behavior, I think. Does she have a drinking problem? To be honest, I think your rules would be simple courtesy of living together...DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-82272014254840167842011-12-01T17:57:50.589-08:002011-12-01T17:57:50.589-08:00Being a landlord is a tough job, especially if the...Being a landlord is a tough job, especially if the tenant is living under your roof. If she were you kid, you'd just say what's on your mind. Your rules are reasonable. Stay tough, and good luckMuffy's Markshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13826630430126318583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8356815487392618550.post-8658296920114431612011-12-01T17:30:16.358-08:002011-12-01T17:30:16.358-08:00Hmm, sounds like you're not a morning person. ...Hmm, sounds like you're not a morning person. :) I can certainly agree with the first three rules.Travels with Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00411769980205792011noreply@blogger.com