Friday, October 23, 2015

Active Hope workshop

The workshop last Saturday on Active Hope was an eye opener for me. Thirty-two of us spent about six hours together in a combination of large group, small group and lecture. I came away with some insights I expect to be helpful in my "saying yes" campaign for myself.

As our icebreaker, we went around the circle and said no more than six words about Hope. Opinions varied widely. My words were "I live in hope." Other people said things like "I have a hard time with hope," "I have no hope," "I wish I had more hope." I'd say my statement was one of the more positive ones. 

We were thinking mostly about the larger challenges currently facing our country and the world: income inequality, refugees, climate change, political gridlock, and other issues. Our facilitator, Barbara Ford, began with "three stories we tell": (1) Business as usual; (2) The Great Unraveling (current media reports on disasters, the "ain't it awfuls" we all hear about; and (3) The Great Turning (movements and activities for change; for example, the rise of alternative energy, cohousing, walkable cities). All these stories coexist, but her interest focuses on (3).

We talked about power, and how we think of it primarily as a bad or corrupt thing. Then, in groups of four, we talked about "a time when something you did or said made a difference for good". After each person talked for five minutes, the other three commented on what they heard about the person that made the effort successful.  Barbara collected the groups' comments on an easel:

What we ended up with was positive qualities of power. We know these things apply at the individual or grassroots level, so it's worth taking a look at expanding this kind of power. 

So, for example, I can make a difference as a mediator working in small claims court on disputes or on parenting plans between divorcing couples. I wouldn't say I have power in these situations, but the qualities on the easel are all useful in coming up with win-win solutions. The idea is that all of us can have that power to influence for the good.

Something else I came away with is that we all contribute in different ways. I will probably never march in a demonstration, but I can be a coordinator and that is just as valuable as the people who actually go out there. I have felt a little guilty sometimes in the past that I'm not a visible activist. But I do other things. That's good to remember. I do believe that "we're all in this together".

And we're all connected. I believe this more and more. To that end, I spent time this week with four women friends, on three days. In every conversation we talked about connection. My mediation work is about connection; my work as liaison for our business is about connection. I'm not sure where these insights will take me. But I know they will take me somewhere.

I'm so grateful to be retired! Who knows what's up next for me?

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DJan said...

This sounds very interesting. It's something I too would have loved to be involved in. It's right up your alley! And yes, it's wonderful to be retired and to have a chance to do what interests us. :-)

Deb Shucka said...

I'm sorry to have missed this. It sounds like the perfect thing for you and where you are on your path. I can hardly wait to see where it takes you.

Olga said...

I really admire how you are making the best use of "retirement."

Nancy/BLissed-Out Grandma said...

Thanks for invites all of us to think about power and purpose and hope. The words I quickly came up with: Hope makes life worthwhile. And yes, you absolutely can help create change by working in the background. With your mediation skills and your interest in the big picture, plus your writing ability, you can be a very powerful change agent. Thanks for inviting us along on the journey.

Saku said...

The words that resonate with me are "We're all connected". With the internet and the ability for news to make its way around the world in seconds, we truly are all connected. That brings me hope, for the more we learn about one another the more likely we are to fear our differences less.

Thank you for sharing this; great workshop!

DeborahG said...

I have been reading your blog for a while now but have never posted a comment. I so enjoy your writing and look forward to adding these blogs to my reading list.

Linda Hoye said...

Sounds like a fascinating workshop. Without hope we fall easily into despair--not a healthy place to be at all. You've given me something to ponder regarding a specific situation, so thank you. And yes, retirement rocks!